Going natural, something that is really taking the African American community by storm. Showing off our natural big hair and loving every curl and kink we have. Although this is something that our fellow sister find beautiful, we do seem to have those haters that want to label our hair as “nappy” and “knatted” instead out what is really is, natural and beautiful.
White america has always been the “decision makers” on what “beauty” is; which is why African Americans have such a hard time loving our hair and ourselves. We tend to listen to what the media and blogs say what beauty is instead of agreeing what the mirror says. This is one of many reasons why African American straighten their hair for interviews or put all these chemicals in our hair to have a better role in a movie. I too, had experience these problems.
I remember I had a job interview coming up in a couple days and I was trying to figure out what I was going to wear and how I would do my hair. I remember thinking to myself that it would be better if I just straighten it because it would make me look more “presentable.” So I did. I went to the interview and I ended up getting the job. On one of my shifts, I wore my natural hair out and my manager comes up to me and says “You know, I think you should really pull your hair back.” Granted my hair was in its natural “afro.” This instantly made me feel terrible because it made me feel ugly. Here I am trying to give my hair a break from heat and my manager told me I shouldn’t wear it like that. From that day, I learned how to love my natural hair, and how to not let people like my manager get to me.
Some of the things that really help me with learning to love my curls is being able to knowledge that the growth and healthiness comes with patience. You can not rush healthy hair. Especially if you did the big chop, it takes time for hair to grow. I also learned that there are going to be people out there that don’t like natural hair and that’s fine. Surround yourself with people that support you and want to see you reach your natural state goals. This does not mean only befriend people that are natural, it just means get better friends. The most important thing that I have learned during my journey, is love yourself. Love the people that you see in the mirror everyday. When you love yourself, you’ll love your hair, and you’ll understand that your hair is not like everyone else. You hair may not have the big curls that you want, or you may not be able to use the same products as someone else. However, if you truly love your hair, you will learn what you can do with your hair, what you like in your hair, and your hair will grow healthy.